Q: Years ago, a former colleague besmirched my reputation. What can I do to move forward and put this untruth in my rearview?
Anonymous, this is a truly tough situation, both challenging and stressful. It must feel especially frustrating that the person slandering you is known to be problematic.
TTIE’s survey and data reveal that many writers have faced repercussions for saying the tough things in the room, for example, pointing out a racist storyline. We can’t know if that was your situation, but it may be a contributing factor.
For our readers who are in a hiring position, this is why we strongly recommend connecting with multiple sources when vetting prospective hires. You want to make sure that you’re not asking one person, however trusted, and taking only their word. We all carry biases or may have connected with someone on their worst day, and it may not define them
Now on to some advice for you to consider, dear Anon!
– TTIE
“I’d love to start by acknowledging how stressful this can be. I am so sorry you’re going through it. As someone who has been in a similar situation, I know firsthand how hard it can be to manage. For me, it was essential to take care of myself first and foremost. Find your support system and lean on them. You can also meet cool folks by attending panels and events from organizations that share your values. This helped me to shift my perspective and to remember that this is one terrible person in a business full of thousands, many of whom are in my corner. While some aspects of this are beyond your control, it may be worth it to ask - if someone is willing to believe a lie from someone unreliable - is this someone I want to work with? Give yourself grace, Anon, and lean on the people who know who you are and how you work - this is how I was fortunate enough to find the next gig!” -
Anonymous, Pre-WGA Writer
“In a business where reputation means so much, the situation you describe is an incredibly challenging one, and there’s not one right answer. If it were an easy solve, you’d be there already, so I want to be clear that these suggestions are long-game tips that can only build momentum over time.
Firstly, reach out to people you trust for support. This problem is real, and many people have faced similar situations. They will understand. Second, if you have reps and trust them, talk to them about it. See if they have ideas about how to navigate your next career steps to circumnavigate the problem, and build with people who can champion you in the future. Third, build new relationships. Whether it’s through WGA activities, volunteer work where you’ll cross with other writers, writing groups, or something else, find places where you can foster genuine connections. While it takes time to build trust, these folks will eventually be able to speak to your character, and even hire you.
Fourth, and finally, be prepared with a brief, diplomatic answer should anyone ask you about the false rumor. Something like, “Yes, I worked with that person, we didn’t really vibe, but I’m proud of the work I did on that show.” Then, give an example that moves the conversation forward.
Outside the support you may need from your existing trusted friends, try not to give the false rumor, or the person who started it, your time and energy. Focus on moving forward, on being the awesome person that you are, on bettering your craft. Go where the love is. Rise above.” -
Anonymous, Mid-Level Writer